Divas, Chicks & Thanks by Estela Caballero, Chief Star Gazer

aEC Estela Latina BloggerI didn’t consider it a gift at the time.  When you’re at that place you know you might lose everything, you are forever changed.

Exhaustion and a darkness threaten to take up permanent residence where hope used to live.  Here’s what I know– if those things hadn’t happened, I might still be powering through all the moments that need some pondering.  I’d still be thinking rushing through the good stuff was necessary not understanding that I was missing life.  Life isn’t something that can be figured out.  It is just moments, a succession of moments that run together so fast.  Walk slow through the lovely moments.  Run your fingers over the face of one you love.  Trace the path to your dreams in the sky and don’t dare believe having your head in the clouds is a bad thing.  So often perspective begins from a distance.  The clouds offer the perfect view.

I am coming up on a year of blogging…the first four months were logging in and out of WordPress wondering if I could do it– no actual blogging ever happened. Then I came across inspiration and found the most amazing people ever–Simon, Sandra, AB and Katrina. Inspiration gave way to courage.

I realized that there will always be fear when you open yourself up to the opinion of others.  Let it go and get on with your life. You’ve got something to share with the world too.  Find your voice and let it be heard.  My greatest motivation was the desire to connect with others, especially others who may be going through something I had already been through.  Maybe my story would be the thing that made them believe things would get better– let them know they were enough.  Pretty enough, strong enough, talented enough, and enough enough.

Here are some of the many bloggers that I connected with early on.  Their words of encouragement and the window into their world has been a gift.





I invite you to explore 4utu.wordpress.com.  I share stories about my personal experience with an autoimmune disease called lupus— the gift.  Other tales are of the ongoing story of our family’s experience with autism.  Memories of growing up in a Mexican American home and migrant life are woven in with photography, poetry and artwork.

She is me

I chronicled the adventures of a chocolate eating kanga-mouse named ChocoBandido and his chick, Lola (she’s a real chick— you gotta read it for yourself).


There was also that time the neighborhood cats waged war and took out a restraining order against me because they said I didn’t have a signed release to post pictures of them—-divas!

Tell me about you. How’s the view from the clouds my friend?  I’m listening.


8 thoughts on “Divas, Chicks & Thanks by Estela Caballero, Chief Star Gazer”

  1. Hi Estela,
    I’m new to your blog. I haven’t read many of your entries yet, but I really appreciate what I have read. Your writing is excellent as are the issues you choose to write about (as I gather from what I have read). I’m interested in your takes on how autism has affected you (your post about your child’s feet was very poignant) and also about lupus.
    Also thank you for listing other sites that inspired you.
    All the best,

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  2. Hello Jack, Thank you for visiting and taking time to share your thoughts. Lupus and autism are two of the main topics on the blog and certainly have impacted our lives. The biggest way they have shaped my life has to do with what I think is important. Happiness isn’t dependent on things that don’t really matter– it probably never did 🙂


  3. Hi Estela,

    You are so right when you say that “happiness isn’t dependent on things that don’t really matter” and it sometimes takes a tragedy in our lives to understand this. Sometime ago I developed a system for myself to work on getting happy! Each time I was to embark on sometime new or become involved somehow with other matters in my life, I would ask myself “will what I am about to do tick the happy box?” and if the answer was going to be “no it will not tick the happy box” then I was much less inclined to do. This has lead me to begin able to bring a lot more happiness in my life than I thought was going to be possible after losing my son in a single vehicle crash in 2009. So I feel you pain and sorrow and share your thoughts about finding happiness and the importance of achieving that goal…for oneself and for others in our life….warm regards Karen Robinson.


  4. Thank you for your kind words and are much appreciated. And in relation to the happy box, I have told others about it and I have seen a number of them actually use the process which has amazed me… A Good outcome I feel…warm regards…Karen


  5. Hola hermanita bonita! I miss you! I love this special note you left for me. I intend to get back into a regular posting schedule. Our family has been displaced since early summer but our new home is set to be completed in just a few more weeks! I’m so excited. I hope you are doing great. looking forward to catching up with you again!

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